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Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Author Bashing - How Far is Too Far

I started off today with another idea for the blog, but felt I wanted to touch on another subject – Author Bashing. I’ve seen a lot of author bashing over the last year and yesterday good friend Helen Hardt and I became targets.

It all started with a Google alert. I opened the alert to see my name was mentioned on a website I’d never visited and I was curious to see why my name appeared. Well, let me just say it wasn’t what I was prepared for. The person, who remained anonymous, took to bashing pen names. Let’s assume for argument sake it’s a she. She compared Amber Skyze and Helen Hardt to stripper names and said they were only suitable for Vegas strip clubs.

Her comments were nasty and rude. First of all Helen’s name has sentimental value, along with the fact her first name is HELEN. She posted her feelings yesterday on her blog, if you care to take a peek - http://helensheroes.blogspot.com.

My last name also holds a special meaning for me. Ten years ago I own and published a romance magazine Romancing the Skyze. It was my baby and I enjoyed running it for a few years until I got sick. I was hospitalized for a few months and the recovery was even longer. I had to stop publishing my magazine. So when I needed a pen name I knew Skyze had to be part of it.

I know Helen attempted to leave this evil person a comment. I chose not to engage her. Though I visited the site this morning and there are NO comments. The funny thing is, she inadvertently brought more traffic to my blog. Oh and she also said that people weren’t buying our books because they’re too busy laughing at our names. Well, I guess I’m laughing all the way to the bank with my royalty checks…because they’re proof people ARE buying my books. J
So in this case bad publicity is good publicity.

That’s not always the case though. I’ve seen friends have their books released and some nameless bitch go to the publisher’s website and give them low ratings. I’ve seen book reviews where the reviewer gives brutal comments. I was a reviewer before I was published. I’d NEVER EVER think about bashing an author. I would give an honest opinion if I didn’t like the story, but I wouldn’t resort to things like – “this author is too stupid to live and should quit while she’s ahead” or “this book is the worst piece of crap I’ve ever read, don’t waste your money”. I’ve seen worse, but I’m toning it down a bit.

Writer’s have feelings. They’re human. Some mothers, grandmothers, wives. They’re normal everyday people who enjoy writing. While I know we need thick skin in this business there’s no reason for personally attacking authors. The Internet has given way too much leeway for people to spout viciousness.

Have you ever been a victim of some idiot’s rantings? How did you deal with it?

32 comments:

  1. Amber, I am so sorry to hear of this.
    Some people have no manners or feelings. Especially when it comes to posting their comments on books, esp. erotica, I have found.
    IGNORE them if you can.
    Negativity, you have no time for. It cuts into your creativity.
    Write today.

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  2. Being on the receiving end of a rant is hard. Fortunately, it's only happened once. Yes, I stewed about it for an hour or so, but then I decided to pray for them, to ease their anger. Unconventional approach I know, but it helped when a neighbor unfairly attacked my kids several years ago. It's not easy; taking the high road instead of fighting back or seeking revenge may seem spineless to some people, but in the end, getting into a pissing match with people who would rather be right than happy never solves anything. Just my humble opinion:)

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  3. Oh hell, it's happened to me in the past and I'm sure it's still happening now. What do I do? I don't google my name. I don't look for trashy comments. And I certainly never comment back to the person leaving the rude remarks. Why bother? It's not going to change their mind. Besides, I have better things to do. As long as I have a readership that likes my work, I'm fine.

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  4. Hi Tina,

    You know, my son told me once that you can't win a pissing match with someone online, and he was absolutely right.

    Stew about it and the only choice you have then is to go on. Keep writing, keep working, and ignore most of that stuff.

    It's unfair, it's frustrating, but we can't do anything about it because being on the internet seems to give people who hide behind an anon name the ability to attack people at their whim.

    Hang in there and do what you do best, lady! In case you don't know, that's writing! lol

    By the way, I love both of your names!

    Hugs

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  5. I guess there are crappy people every where. I believe if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anythng at all. When it comes to reviews. I only leave them If I loved the book, I've never left a bad review. I let other's decide if they don't like it.

    Sorry this happened to you two. Some people are just ignorant.

    Christine

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  6. These blog review sites are popping up everywhere. An honest opinion is fine but I've seen authors mocked and made fun of so much lately. It's never cool. When I see this stuff I vow to never return to that site. Writing is work. It takes every bit of our creativity, time, etc and for someone to bash this way is unacceptable. There are even some very BIG spots in cyberworld that I avoid because they seem to take special delight on bashing and trashing. It's their bread and butter. Nope. I won't go.

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  7. Sadly our culture has become a bastion of the rude. Being rude and stupid is encouraged and expected on online as a way to get traffic and get attention. Where is her name and her well received book? Where is her courage to put herself out in public and share a big piece of her soul and talent? What does sniping contribute to?
    Your merits and your accomplishments and strengths far out weigh the snipers. Sadly I'm sure they are an empty, frustrated person who is much harder on themselves than they are on the world.
    I'll cherish my writing time and even fail as an author rather than snipe at someone who is trying to entertain others and bring a little joy to the world.
    XXOO Kat

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  8. These anonymous people who feel compelled to personally attack an author, trash their work, or spew venomous nonsensical drivel are not worth our time and energy.

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  9. As a reader, I only want to leave positive comments. I don't really think about an author's name or pen name. I read their books because I enjoy them. I'm sorry there are throughtless people who feel the need to bash others.

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  10. Cerise - Don't worry I'm not quitting over some jerk. :)

    Molly and Taylor - nope a pissing match online is not worth it. That's why I didn't respond on the site.

    Tina - I definitely wasn't looking for trashy comments. I have the alerts set up for piracy and was shocked to find the posting. I'm sure it won't be the last time. :)

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  11. Christine - I agree - keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say. Didn't their mothers teach them that?????

    Regina - I'm wondering why she remained anonymous. Is it fear of being bashed back?

    Thanks Kat.

    I second that, Tessie.

    Me too, Andrea. Me too.

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  12. Hi Amber! I was telling my 17 year old son about this, and he said, "Look at it this way mom, you're well known enough that they make fun of you." Ha ha -- excellent point!

    Like Tina D. above, I don't usually google my name, though I probably should to find my work on pirate sites. I don't read reviews for the same reason. Negative ones can really mess with your head. I have friends who send me the positive ones :).

    Some people are very small. It's sad, when you think about it. Well, not that sad. They're b*tches, lol. But think of how horrible their lives must be if they get joy out of bashing others.

    Excellent post, my friend!

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  13. Wow! I think these people believe they are being funny or witty. Awful! Maybe I should set up a google alert - except I'm not sure I want to know!

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  14. I like your son's way of thinking Helen!

    No Julia, sometimes it's not worth it. :)

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  15. It's sad that this does happen. But so many bad things are afloat because we are out here with millions. I tend to agree-- take the good forget the bad. What else can we do? I could go on and on, but I won't, lol.
    Take care, girls.

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  16. Hi Amber, I was just over at Helen's blog. You're both sweethearts and obviously don't deserve to be insulted by this negative person. You've got the right idea--keep on laughing your way to the bank. :-)

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  17. People can "hide" behind nasty comments online...it's a cowardly thing to do! Probably some frustrated writer, jealous of the success of others, no matter what their pen names are.
    A few weeks ago, one of my book covers appeared in a blog about covers where the blogger made fun of them. didn't respond...and got extra hits at my website.
    Marianne/April

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  18. Great blog Amber, its a shame that someone on line feels the need to be nasty and mean... Your write we are human and it very hard to put our books out there, they are are Babies.

    But you know the truth, you are talented and you are laughing all the way to the bank keep laughing!!!!!

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  19. Thanks for the support, Kaye!

    I think these people forget there's real people behind the pen names, Dominique.

    I remember that, April. So sad.

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  20. I just can't figure these negative people out. It doesn't make a lick of sense to disrespect people you don't even know. They are just not worth your time. Though I hurts like a banshee to be sure. Hugs to you and Helen.

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  21. JEALOUSY. There is no other reason to be cruel. I have been slammed on my EC buy pages by some angry readers who feel that my books are too short. I had nothing but fabulous remarks on my very first book, Out of Her Dreams...and then along comes a gal who says it was boring from start to finish. The only reason she gave a "enjoyable" was because it was funny in places.

    Another gives me the lowest rating possible on all my other books because the rest of my books "will never be as great as OOHD, which was wonderful and great".

    *sigh*

    You just can't please everyone. But an author's pen name is a thing you have no business bitching about. If this woman/person/thing says a name sounds like a stripper's name, she/he/it needs a lesson in tact and kindness. I have had friends whose REAL names caused many a stir. LOL! I personally know a man whose last name is Balls...and yep...you guessed it...him mommy named him Harry.

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  22. Hi Amber,

    I'm honestly not sure why people feel the need to run down others, and for no reason I can see. It doesn't make them look any smarter and definitely makes them look snarky. I'm really sorry you and Helen got slammed. I do hope it helps your sales. A rough way to make a living this writing.

    Take care and know you're not alone.

    Hugs

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  23. ABOUT THE IDOIIOT WELL I LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN AND THEY DO IT ALOT HERE THEY RUN THE LIGHTS AND THEN I TELL THEM WERE TO STICK IT AND THEN
    I DID HAVE TO GO TO THE COURT HOUSE TO TELL THE COP THAT SOMONE HIT A SIGN AND IT BEEN DOWN FOR NOW ALMOST 3 WEEKS IN SPRINGFEILD MO
    THE PEOPLE RUN OVER AT LEAST ONE KID A WEEK HERE AND SAY THE KIDS FAUT WE HAVE SOME OF THE WORST DRIVER HERE

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  24. Amber (and Helen) just keep in mind that
    those who write do, those who cant write....criticise! *grin* and they dont even do that well....hahahaha

    I have not read either of y'all's work but I sure will now. Thanks to anonymous for leadin me to new-to-me authors! *grin*

    Pick yourself up, shake it off and keep on keepin on....in other words write, write, write as your loyal fans want to read, read, read!

    jo

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  25. I'm glad the post brought us a new reader, Joey. :)

    Thanks for all the support from everyone who stopped by today. Fellow authors are the greatest! And so are the readers. :)

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  26. Amber, great post! It amazes me how thoughtless people can be. But you're definitely taking lemons and making lemonade! Hugs...

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  27. It's not easy to be on the receiving end of bashing. This I know from experience, but you're above it, my friend. So glad to see you taking the high road. I love your pen name. Big hugs and kudos on the great blog.

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  28. Amber,sorry to hear about this. How petty, but let's face it, I've met some of the rudest people in the world through publishing. And I hate to say that. I think part of it is the anonymity of the Internet. I don't know why they think our forefathers meant freedom of speech included those who are too cowardly to put their names up. But they didn't.

    I'm glad you didn't respond. It doesn't help, but makes things worse. I like to think good ol' karma will come around for them. And then I get back to writing.

    You're a sweetheart, so ignore them and write that next book,

    Hugs, Keta

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  29. Annonymous comments are the worst. I think you ladies have the right idea. Ignore it and move on. Plus, enjoy the extra boost to your website. :-)

    Helen, I love your son's attitude. :)

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  30. Free publicity is free publicity. You can see that someone has bashed me at Barnes & Noble, because for a while everyone of my books had a one star rating and she apparently took time to write her "first review ever" because one of my books was so bad. A few years ago I would've been upset. Now I just shrug and say, "Whatever..." It's not worth my time and energy, but it makes a great blog topic.

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  31. Cari, Annette, NJ, Keta, and Marie-Nicole thanks so much for your support. It's so good to know how passionate everyone is about this.

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  32. The Emperor Has No Clothes.
    I would bet that if their anonymity disappeared, they would, too. Reviews are just that, a review of the book itself, not an open invitation to cruelty.

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