Poor Sandra!
What is it, less than two weeks after the Academy Awards and Sandra Bullock's husband is outed?!? After all the nice things she said about him...I feel so bad for her. If anyone watched the Babara Walter's special after the awards show - which I did for once in my life because it was her last special and the woman is getting quite frail - Sandra said of her marriage - that for the first time in her life, she knew what it was like to have someone watch her back. Psyche! Wow, what a blow! On the other hand, Monique - who won for best supporting actress, claimed in her interview that she and her husband have an open marriage, that if her husband has a sexual relationship with someone else, it is not a deal-breaker. Wha? Huh? Well...I guess...if it works for you...then c'est la vie.
I mean for me, it's a deal-breaker. Having witnessed the dissolution of so many of my friend's marriages, my relative's marriages, all I can say is - while you might conjecture in your little logical mind that it's all good, chances are your heart says otherwise.
I guess that's why cheating is a no-no in a romance novel. Nothing good can come of it. I know I want a man who wants to be with me and if he doesn't then I hope he has the decency to tell me, especially before I make a fool of myself. Damn!
I mean for me, it's a deal-breaker. Having witnessed the dissolution of so many of my friend's marriages, my relative's marriages, all I can say is - while you might conjecture in your little logical mind that it's all good, chances are your heart says otherwise.
I guess that's why cheating is a no-no in a romance novel. Nothing good can come of it. I know I want a man who wants to be with me and if he doesn't then I hope he has the decency to tell me, especially before I make a fool of myself. Damn!
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Cheating is a definite deal breaker for me. I wouldn't do it to you, so respect me and refrain. Otherwise, tell me you want out and go.
ReplyDeleteI feel terrible for Sandra. It's got to be worse being in the public eye.
If parts of the reports are true, Jesse had what I consider a relationship with the other woman - more than one encounter over a length of time. That is not a 'mistake', or a 'what was I thinking' thing. Plus, they are in the middle of custody issues regarding his kids, did he not care how his actions would effect that situation?
ReplyDeleteI hope he'll admit how selfish and stupid he was and look at how many people he hurt-his wife, his children even the woman he cheated with will all suffer-not cool.
ReplyDeleteXXOO Kat
I was thinking last night that the other woman or women involved get away with it - everybody looks at the guy and his behavior, but hey lady, you knowingly had sex with a married man. I guess there is no aphrodisiac like fame and fortune...Look at Tiger. The wife gets the short end of the stick!
ReplyDeleteOnce again, I have NO idea what you are talking about. I don't read the papers, haven't watched TV in years, and pay no attention at all to the Enquirer. Sandra Bullock is a fabulous actress. I didn't even know she was married. How oblivious can I get?
ReplyDeleteCheating in real life or romance books only leads to heartache and lack of trust. If someone you love (SO or spouse) cheats once, how could you ever regain that trust between the two of you?
ReplyDeleteI don't understand it. I'd be heartbroken and could never forget, so that would always be a wedge between me and husband. The marriage would never be the same.
Fran - it's all over the internet - Sandra Bullock's husband of five years cheated on her and from what I can tell, she's been very devoted to him. He's Jesse James and he is a reality TV star in his own right - Monster Garage.
ReplyDeleteCheating is despicable, and a deal-breaking betrayal of trust. Open marriages, on the other hand, work for some people. I know because I'm one of them. There's a world of difference between lying and sneaking around, and an open relationship.
ReplyDeleteGail - I would say that marriage, no matter what the arrangements, requires honesty. An open marriage works if there is absolute trust between all parties - just like in any marriage. I feel that it is way better to be honest, no matter how difficult, than to disabuse your partner's trust.
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